My second interviewer was Maxwell Kang. Maxwell is the one who is
three-year friend and also my best friend and roommate. Maxwell’s story is also
special for me. Maxwell lost his mother when he was three years old because of
accident, and he still can know his mother’s face only through with pictures he
took with his mother when he was baby.
Because I already knew that Michael did not have his mother for most of his lifetime, I firstly mentioned that we both do not have mothers in our life. I said, "You are in same shape as me. I know you don't have mother in daily life, and I don't have my mom in my daily life as well. Don't you feel any loneliness?"
However, the answer from Maxwell was very interesting and unique, "No, I didn't. Because my father and my aunt cared me a lot, there aren't any times that I thought about my mom."
"It's interesting. So, you didn't feel any emptiness even though you don't have mother?"
"Yes, my father and my aunt are always with me."
"But I remember you lived alone, I thought you feel really alone."
"No, I was and am fine with my life right now."
I, lastly, asked that what would happen when he had mother for all of his life. I said, "I thought that my life would be really different when I had my mom. Don't you think it would be different?"
He, interestingly, said, "It would be really different. I could have normal family as many other people. However, I still love my life, and I thought that it was sometimes better to have this situation, so that I could be more mature than many other people in the world."
Maxwell’s persistence and affirmation toward his situation shocked me a lot. Even though he did not have his mother for most of lifetime, he habitually said that “I am fine without my mom, and I don’t really care about it.” I had the time when I really missed my mom, but I was really surprised that he could stay strong for all time in his life, though there wasn’t presence of mother for whole time. The interview was very enjoyable because I can see different conceptions toward the only parent and the life without mother.
I was really thank about Maxwell's participation in the interview, and having roommate with same family situation gave me to share more thoughts with my roommate as well.
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Because I already knew that Michael did not have his mother for most of his lifetime, I firstly mentioned that we both do not have mothers in our life. I said, "You are in same shape as me. I know you don't have mother in daily life, and I don't have my mom in my daily life as well. Don't you feel any loneliness?"
However, the answer from Maxwell was very interesting and unique, "No, I didn't. Because my father and my aunt cared me a lot, there aren't any times that I thought about my mom."
"It's interesting. So, you didn't feel any emptiness even though you don't have mother?"
"Yes, my father and my aunt are always with me."
"But I remember you lived alone, I thought you feel really alone."
"No, I was and am fine with my life right now."
I, lastly, asked that what would happen when he had mother for all of his life. I said, "I thought that my life would be really different when I had my mom. Don't you think it would be different?"
He, interestingly, said, "It would be really different. I could have normal family as many other people. However, I still love my life, and I thought that it was sometimes better to have this situation, so that I could be more mature than many other people in the world."
Maxwell’s persistence and affirmation toward his situation shocked me a lot. Even though he did not have his mother for most of lifetime, he habitually said that “I am fine without my mom, and I don’t really care about it.” I had the time when I really missed my mom, but I was really surprised that he could stay strong for all time in his life, though there wasn’t presence of mother for whole time. The interview was very enjoyable because I can see different conceptions toward the only parent and the life without mother.
I was really thank about Maxwell's participation in the interview, and having roommate with same family situation gave me to share more thoughts with my roommate as well.
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